It is also important, when dealing with your son, to see this as an opportunity to practice some key parenting strategies. It is critical to listen to your son, showing that you want to understand his thoughts on the matter. Your communication must show that you respect him as a young adult, not that you are simply going to be tough on the limits. It is a chance to let him know that you understand his caring for another person, and you recognize the challenges he faces in a growing relationship. It will be critical that you and your spouse empathize with him while not being swayed to alter your values or boundaries. God bless.

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David Hawkins, Pd.D., has worked with couples and families to improve the quality of their lives by resolving personal issues for the last 30 years. He is the author of over 18 books, including   Love Lost: Living Beyond a Broken Marriage,  Saying It So He'll Listen, and  When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You. His newest book, When the Man in Your Life Can’t Commit, will be released in February, 2006.  Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.