And what do you get for your obedience? Another place in scripture concludes that the Lord will reward those who do good to those who are evil (see Proverbs 25:22. The evil of some parents can be overcome in this life with good, others cannot.  Either way, the LORD will notice your sacrifice and reward you.

Until then live this way (see Romans 12:14-20):

  • bless and do not curse;
  • do everything you can to live in harmony;
  • do not be proud and be willing to associate with her despite her behavior;
  • do not become conceited;
  • in public be careful to do what is right;
  • do not take revenge;
  • “feed” and “give her something to drink” even when undeserved.

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Ron L. Deal is president of Smart Stepfamilies™, director of blended family ministries for FamilyLife®, a popular conference speaker on marriage and family matters, and author/coauthor of a series of DVD’s and books for stepfamilies including The Smart Stepfamily, The Remarriage Checkup (with David H. Olson), The Smart Stepmom (with Laura Petherbridge), The Smart Stepdad, and his latest Dating and the Single Parent. Learn more at

Publication date: April 12, 2013