Respond wisely to pain. Everyone experiences pain in this fallen world, so you and your spouse can count on encountering pain in your marriage. But you have a choice about how you'll respond to pain.

Realize that what you choose to do with your pain will determine the extent of your intimacy with your spouse. If you deny your pain, withdraw from it, or try to numb yourself against it, it will only harm your sexual relationship. But if you ask God to use your pain to confront ways you need to grow as a person and teach you valuable lessons that you couldn't learn otherwise, you'll gain greater intimacy with God, which will enrich your sexual relationship with your spouse.

Express God's image through your marriage. Every day, pray for the strength to be faithful in your relationships with God and your spouse. Aim to surrender every part of your life to God. That will empower you to be vulnerable and closely connected to your spouse. Then you'll enjoy a truly fulfilling sex life together in your marriage - one that's full of purpose, power, and passion.

Adapted from Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power, and Passion of Biblical Intimacy, copyright 2010 by Dr. Ted Roberts and Diane Roberts. Published by Baker Books, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Mich.,

Dr. Ted Roberts is the founder of Pure Desire Ministries International and was the senior pastor of East Hill Church in Gresham, Oregon, from 1984-2007. He is the author of several books including, Pure Desire, For Men Only, Living Life Boldly, Going Deeper, and Failing Forward. A sought after speaker in the United States and around the world, Dr. Roberts is a certified sexual addiction therapist and enjoys scuba diving, triathalons, and underwater photography.

Diane Roberts is co-founder and conference speaker for Pure Desires Ministries International. She was women's ministry director/pastor and counselor at East Hill Church for more than 20 years. Author of Betrayed Heart and Accept No Substitutes, and contributing author of Pure Desire, Diane is a sought-after speaker who addresses issues of healthy sexuality and sexual addiction.