5. Model Relationship: Our ministry offers a free "family Advent conversation starter" based on the Christmas story and Isaiah 9:6 at www.farrelcommunications.com. This simple candle lighting is a nice pre-meal tradition that includes all members of the family. Some read pieces of the Christmas story, some light candles, and all share answers to various questions so we can share on a deeper more meaningful level. We also give a "blessing" over each person who sits at our Christmas table, we share ways we have seen them grow, or celebrate successes, and we pray and ask God's favor over his/her life. Even the "Grinch" at your table will have his/her heart warmed by this personalized gesture of positive affirmation and love.

6. Model Spirituality. Christmas would not exist except "God so loved the world that He gave His only son." Without Jesus, there would be no star on the tree top or angels hanging from the branches; there would be no twinkling lights without the one who came as "the light of men"; there would be no gifts shared if the wise men never brought gifts to the manger. Make the reading of the Christmas story, the playing of Christmas music that honors the Christ child, or going to worship services together as a family a part of this holiday.   

Make this the Christmas you celebrate with lasting impact.  From our home to yours, Merry Blessed Christmas!    

Originally posted for Christmas 2008.


Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, best-selling authors of over 25 books including Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti, and 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make. For relationship resources visit www.farrelcommunications.com.