3. Listen to God. You wrote, “I felt like in my prayer time in May, God told me to hold on, be faithful, and trust him and my passion and desire would come.” I am happy for you that you feel He told you to be faithful. Read it in Hebrews 13:4, “Have respect for marriage. Always be faithful to your partner, because God will punish anyone who is immoral or unfaithful in marriage.” (Contemporary English Version) Be assured of this, God did not send you another man to fall in love with so that you would leave your husband. He does NOT violate His law. We should not either.

4. Seek help. The emotions you feel may grow stronger. As most of us have learned in life, when emotions and logic battle each other, emotion often wins. If you feel that you are strong enough to handle this by yourself, you are in danger. Find a Godly woman or a shepherd in the kingdom that you trust. Ask for their understanding, help, and accountability.

5. Work on your marriage. Come to a workshop such as ours or find you a great Christian marriage counselor. The love you wish to feel can occur with your husband, even if it is not there right now. It will not be the intensity of limerence, but it can be much deeper and much more fulfilling.

If we can help, please call us toll free at (866) 903-0990 or click here to request more information on my marriage seminar that saves marriages in trouble. If you prefer help from someone else, that is fine. BUT GET THE HELP you need before your emotions lead you astray.

Joe Beam is a best-selling author and has been used by God to save thousands of marriages from divorce and unhappiness.