So next time you face an area of potential power plays, how about making it a win-win scenario? Separate toothpaste tubes for all?

For Spouse and me, with a large family to run, we like to use our dressing time to talk about our eight children: who needs time with daddy? How is our special son doing in school? Who needs to begin with the orthodontist next? If we are struggling for dominion in the minor areas, we can’t move on to work together as a powerful force to impact our spheres and make our lives run more smoothly.

There is an insightful verse in Genesis about the power of people talking things through to accomplish goals: And the Lord said, “If as one people speaking the same language they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them.” (11:6)

As a couple, let’s choose to “speak the same language” and make plans that nothing can stop. Let’s work together to make a dynamic union that empowers each of us to live a life that counts. Let’s find solutions to the mundane so we can get on to the exciting job of living the life we want.

Originally published February 17, 2009.

After 30 years of marriage, Mark & Kym Wright now have eight children. She is a national speaker, author and writer. You can visit her website at: online publication is The Mother’s Heart magazine, for wives and mothers with hearts in their homes.