Sixth, create an environment where love can flourish. Create the time and space, as well as the intentionality, for love to blossom. Plan new adventures, see new sights, take up new hobbies together. Explore new ideas that will invigorate your relationship and spark your senses. Pursue these visions together and watch your marriage grow into what you always knew could exist.

Finally, God is for you and your marriage. The Lord wants your marriage to be alive and wonderful. He empowers us to create an environment where love flourishes. Scripture tells us, "I am about to do something new. It is beginning to happen even now. Don't you see it coming? I am going to make a way for you to go through the desert. I will make streams of water in the dry and empty land." (Isaiah 43:19)

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Dr. David Hawkins is the director of the Marriage Recover Center where he counsels couples in distress. He is the author of over 30 books, including Dealing With the CrazyMakers in Your Life, 90 Days to a Fantastic Marriage, and Saying It So He'll Listen. Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.