4.  You are married to the in-laws. You may think you only spoke vows to one person, therefore the other family members are incidental guests at the wedding. Wrong!  The three families (wife’s, husband’s, and the new one) will be intertwined as long as you live. So be smart. Don’t say stupid things that will come back to bite you. Be kind to every family member. 

Sometimes some families have been so dysfunctional for so long, it is a real challenge to bring health to them. But work hard to have a good relationship with your spouse’s family and you'll likely strengthen your marriage. Being kind and respectful to your in-laws is often warmly appreciated by your spouse because of the love he/she has for them and prevents, or heals, years of resentment. What you invest in building relationships with your in-laws will pay great dividends over the years.

5. Commit to stay. While there is no guarantee in marriage, it is safe to say that most marriages will survive if both the man & woman will commit to stay with each other. As simple as it sounds, this is one of most basic, foundational principles of marriages that last. They are committed to stay with each other. So commit to work out problems. Commit to seek the best for the other. Commit to grow in love. Commit to the principles that will strengthen your marriage.

The five listed above will help restore a marriage and provide a foundation for a new one.

Provide the best family environment for yourself, your children and your spouse by committing to your marriage in the good times and in the bad. It's not too late.

Joe Beam is founder and chairman of Beam Research Center, an organization that provides marriage help to hurting couples. He is a best-selling author and popular speaker on marriage. For information on Joe's seminar for troubled marriages, call (866) 903-0990 or click the link above.


Publication date: July 2, 2012