Of course, not every choice should be thrown up for discussion. The longer you’ve been married, the more likely you are to know each other’s preferences. Some choices like china patterns and drapes are better left totally to your bride. Which leaves you with complete executive authority over lawn fertilizer and driveway sealer.

Gentlemen, asking your bride’s opinion early is always better than having her second-guess you after the decision has been made. Insisting on her input helps you maintain the illusion that you are in control.


The great benefit of sharing and listening to each other’s opinions on the small stuff is that you’re well-rehearsed when it comes to the big stuff.

“If I want your opinion, I’ll give it to you.” Samuel Goldwyn (1879–1974)

Article excerpted from 52 Things Wives Need from Their Husbands (Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Oregon). Copyright 2011 by Jay K. Payleitner. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

Jay Payleitner is one of the top freelance Christian radio producers in the United States. He has worked on Josh McDowell Radio, Today's Father, and many others. A bestselling author, his books include 365 Ways to Say "I Love You" to Your Kids. He's also a popular speaker at men's events and served as executive director of the Illinois Fatherhood Initiative. Jay and his wife, Rita, make their home in the Chicago area.