On the other hand, it is possible you are seeing some "red flags" to which you should be sensitive. Consider these red flags:

• Does he have unaccounted for gaps of time?

• Does he resent being asked where he has been?

• Is he willing to share his extra time with you?

• Is his life "an open book," or are their "secrets" which he is unwilling to share with you?

• Is he willing to understand your fears and accommodate his behavior so you feel more trusting, or does he indicate that it is your problem?

• Is he willing to seek Christian counseling to work on these issues?

Your answers to these questions will tell you much. It is most important that couples work together to rebuild trust, love and devotion in their marriage. Even if trust has been broken, with God’s grace and some hard work, your marriage can be restored. Both people working together can create a bond that will last forever.

Do you need sound, Biblically-based advice on an issue in your marriage or family?  Dr. David will address two questions from Crosswalk readers in his weekly column. Submit your question to him at TheRelationshipDoctor@gmail.com


David Hawkins, Pd.D., has worked with couples and families to improve the quality of their lives by resolving personal issues for the last 30 years. He is the author of over 18 books, including   Love Lost: Living Beyond a Broken Marriage,  Saying It So He'll Listen, and  When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You. His newest book is titled When the Man in Your Life Can’t Commit.  Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives with his wife on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.