Immerse Yourself in God's Word 

Reciting Scripture keeps our minds focused on God's truth rather than Satan's lies. The Word also keeps us unstained by the world and its ideals, philosophies and values. The world will tell you - on television, on the radio, in songs, or across the table at the coffee shop - that you are the most important person in your life and finding yourself is paramount. But Jesus said: "If your first concern is to look after yourself, you'll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you'll find both yourself and me" (Matthew 10:39, The Message)

Invite Accountability into your Life

Proverbs 27:17 tells us: "As iron sharpens iron, so one man (or woman) sharpens another." The Bible also tells us of the benefit of having another person in our life who can hold us accountable and keep us from falling: "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).

Get real with someone you trust and ask them to pray for you and hold you accountable in the area in which you struggle. 

Incorporate Daily Prayer into You Life

If you're only praying when you're in trouble, then you're in trouble. Prayer keeps us focused on God. So it needs to be continual, so we don't lose our focus and start thinking of ourselves again.  1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to "pray continually." I find that when I do that, my focus is more on God, than on myself.  When I struggle with feelings of guilt or shame, with wanting to feel more significant, or with wanting something in my life to change, I must redirect my focus onto God and start praising Him. When we recount God's goodness, recite His faithfulness, and repeat songs of His worthiness it switches the focus from our self pity to our Savior's praise.

Can you, too, proclaim the goodness of the One who is the Answer at the end of your search? Will you, in this moment, surrender your search for yourself and replace it with the realization that, in Jesus, you have found all you could ever want?  There is something wonderful in being able to say: "I've finally found what I've been looking for." 

June 17, 2010
Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of several books including When Women Walk Alone. This article is an excerpt from her newest book Women on the Edge. For more information on her ministry or books, see