Pray about hardness of heart that causes love to die. Ask God to protect your marriage from the damage caused by stubborn or rebellious hearts. Confess any hardness of heart you have toward God or your spouse as sin. Ask God to transform both you and your spouse's hearts so that you'll always feel love for each other. Pray for a pure heart so you'll naturally want to live to please God because of your love for Him. Trust God to restore your marriage by sending His love to flow through your hearts to each other.

Pray about you and your spouse no longer being each other's high priority. Ask God to help you always keep your relationship with Him your top priority and your relationship with your spouse your next highest priority under that. Pray to be able to choose each other over everything else that vies for your attention. Ask for the help you need to make changes in your schedule so you can protect time with your spouse and constantly nurture your marriage relationship.

Pray about divorce being mentioned as an option. Ask God to help you and your spouse rise above thinking of divorce as a solution to your problems. Confess considering divorce as sin and repent of any time you've expressed that to your spouse or even thought about it. Pray for the possibility of divorce never to enter your minds.

Ask for the strength you need to focus on building up your marriage instead of tearing it down. Remember that there's always hope for your marriage, as long as both of you are willing to work on it, because everything is possible with God. Turn to God to find real solutions for your marriage.

Pray about infidelity shaking your foundation. Confess any actual affair or adulterous thoughts as sin and repent. Ask God to protect your marriage from infidelity and give you and your spouse both the wisdom and strength to avoid temptations to sin that can harm your relationship. Pray for God to help you and your spouse forgive each other and rebuild trust in your relationship. Ask God to change your heart so that your sexual desire would be directed only toward your spouse.

Pray about one of you deciding to leave home. Ask God to keep you and your spouse closely connected to each other and avoid too much emotional distance. Remember that nothing can ever separate you from God's love. Rely on that love to grow closer to your spouse, praying to become a vessel through which God will pour out His love and draw you all closer together. Ask God to help you each be kind when you could be stern, merciful when you could be judgmental, and forgiving when you could take offense.

Pray that you and your spouse will never become so preoccupied with other things that you all begin to serve those things instead of God. Ask God to bring about full reconciliation in your marriage.

Pray about the miracle you need when hope seems lost. Commit your marriage to God, placing all your hope in Him and trusting in His unfailing love. Keep your eyes on God rather than on your difficulties. Remember that God has promised never to leave or forsake you. Ask God to resurrect your marriage, no matter how dead it seems, because He has the power to do it and wants the best for both you and your spouse. Pray to grow stronger in faith - in God, and in each other.

Originally posted March 17, 2009


Adapted from The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage, copyright 2009 by Stormie Omartian. Published by Harvest House Publishers, Eugene, Or., www.harvesthousepublishers.com.   

Stormie Omartian is the bestselling author of The Power of a Praying® series (more than 11 million copies sold worldwide), which includes The Power of a Praying® Wife and The Power of a Praying® Husband. Her many other books include Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On, The Prayer That Changes Everything®, and The Power of a Praying® Woman. Stormie and her husband, Michael, have been married more than 35 years and have three grown children.