“We don’t decide very well at times,” Bob says. “We need help with that … but not to be dominated with that.”

Steve, a husband of ten years and brand new father, says: "I love my wife’s ability to think completely opposite than me; it makes me feel like we make better decisions because we come at it from two completely different planets. Of course that can be problematic at times, but in the long run it’s better. It means we’ve covered every angle. And that makes me feel better.”

When your opinion differs from your husband’s, it doesn’t have to result in an argument. Offer it as a way of putting something else on the table. Then see what he or God might do with it. If it’s not the opinion or action that your husband decides to go with, your reaction is key to what happens next.

Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and the author of several books, including When Women Walk Alone, Women on the Edge, When a Woman Inspires Her Husband (upon which this article is based) and When Couples Walk Together, which she co-authored with her husband, Hugh. For more information, encouragement and free resources to strengthen your marriage or your walk with Christ, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.

Publication date: April 16, 2012