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10 Tips to Prepare for the 2009 Holiday Season

  • Jim Burns HomeWord
  • 2009 11 Nov
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10 Tips to Prepare for the 2009 Holiday Season

 

I can't believe that the 2009 holiday season is upon our doorstep already. For so many people, 2009 has been a roller coaster experience. And some are ready to get off the ride! The economy has impacted everyone, some much more than others. And the impact hasn't just been financial. Attitudes, emotions, plans, and mindsets have all been affected. I have no doubt that this year's recession has resulted in a culture-wide increase in stress and anxiety.

For many of us, the holiday season is a time that is anticipated with both joy and anxiety. Sure, we love the celebrations, the family traditions, and we cherish the memories of holidays gone by; but along with them, we add the stresses of preparation, expectations and the fear of letdowns, or family squabbles that we have experienced in the past. And, this year, the stress and anxiety level is likely to be amplified. With this in mind, here are ten tips I believe can be helpful in getting ready for an enjoyable, meaningful holiday season in 2009.

1. Set manageable expectations. Spend some time now setting realistic and manageable expectations for your holiday season. Understand that you can't do everything, and with our current economic realities, you might not be able to do everything you've done in the past. If this is true for you, there might be a sense of disappointment. Still, it doesn't have to ruin your family's holiday season. So, be realistic about what you can do. Make a list of what you can do and prioritize your most important events and activities for you and your family. Then, pace yourself. Organize your time. Keep in mind that it's the holiday "season" (not "day") and spread out your activities to lessen stress and increase enjoyment.

2. Remember the holiday season does not eliminate sadness or loneliness. Problems and difficulties arise even during the holiday season. And, for some, the holiday season evokes painful memories from recent events or the loss of loved ones in the past. Give room for yourself and your family to experience these feelings. Try not to let them become a consuming focus. Make an effort to work through present challenges and conflicts.

3. Acknowledge the past, but look toward the future. Life brings changes. Each season of life is different. Determine to enjoy this holiday season for what it is. Acknowledging the past, whether it was good or bad, is appropriate. But, if you find that this year has been a rough one and you don't anticipate having the best holiday season ever, try not to set yourself up by comparing today with the "good old days." Take advantage of the joys the present holiday season has to offer.

4. Develop and encourage a life of gratitude. Gratitude is an attribute that transcends circumstances. No matter what your circumstances, I believe there is reason to be thankful in them. Your circumstances may never change, but your attitude toward them can change…and this can make all the difference. Christians have a special reason to adopt the attitude of gratitude, because we know that whatever comes, our times are in God's hands. It was Jesus who said, in effect, "So don't be anxious about tomorrow. God will take care of your tomorrow, too." (See Matthew 6:34.)

If you want to help your kids develop an attitude of gratitude, I encourage you to try an experiment that might radically influence your family, and it's a great exercise in the days leading to Thanksgiving. It's called "Thank Therapy." Thank Therapy is simply focusing on the many things in your life for which you can be thankful. Get started by having each family member create individual lists, of "Twenty Reasons Why I'm Thankful." Thank Therapy is simply an act of the will to concentrate on the good and not the bad.

5. Do something for someone else. One of the ways we can demonstrate that we are grateful to God for His many blessings is to help others. Even if this has been a difficult year for you and your family, helping others will actually help you too, as your focus will move from your own circumstances onto serving others. While there are always people who can use a helping hand, this year, I suspect there are many more. So, enrich this holiday season for your family by getting involved in serving others. For some great ideas, read HomeWord's free online article, "Helping Others at the Holiday Season."

6. Enjoy activities that are cheap or free. There are many good holiday-related activities that will add to your family's enjoyment that are either free or low cost, such as driving around to look at holiday decorations, baking Christmas cookies, going window-shopping, or playing in the snow.

7. Enjoy a family holiday tradition. Traditions provide opportunities to keep your family's legacy going. They create meaningful memories. So, from the silly to the sentimental, if your family has some holiday traditions, if possible, be sure to include them in your holiday activity plans.

8. Try something new. Traditions are great, but sometimes families find themselves celebrating the holidays in exactly the same fashion, year after year. And, this can result in your family experiencing a holiday funk. So, think about finding a new way to celebrate the holiday season this year. You may just create a new tradition that will keep going for generations!

9. Spend money responsibly (especially this year!) The holiday season brings with it a big temptation to spend lots of money especially when it comes to purchasing Christmas presents for your family. Don't be afraid to say no to this temptation, especially if you've been hard hit by the recession. The following is good advice for every family: Don't spend beyond your means and rack up significant credit card debt! While your family may be thrilled by expensive gifts on Christmas Day, don't forget that come springtime, your kids may well have laid aside or forgotten those gifts, even while you're struggling to make the payments. Decide now to be financially responsible this holiday season!

10. Carve out some time for yourself! Don't take on all of the responsibilities of your family's holiday celebrations by yourself. Share the load. Create some space during the holidays for you to recharge your own batteries.

Novemeber 27, 2009


Jim Burns, Ph.D.,
founded HomeWord and hosts the radio program HomeWord with Jim Burns. The author of many resources, including Creating an Intimate Marriage and Parenting Teenagers for Positive Results, he has also won three Gold Medallion Awards. Jim holds degrees from Azusa Pacific University, Princeton Theological Seminary, and Greenwich School of Theology.