A New Breed of Grandparents
- Monday, August 30, 2004
Grandparents have changed. Today's grandparents are the graying remnant of a generation who managed to turn our country upside down when they were young. The average age of a first time grandparent is 47. They compute more and crochet less. They buy more and bake less. Their hand-painted Volkswagens have been replaced by SUVs or motor homes. They have exchanged tie-dye for Tai chi. And almost all have traded love beads for love handles.
The most significant change for this generation of grandparents is the strategic position they are being called upon to play in today's family structure. Whether their grandchildren live down the street, across the country or in the bedroom next to theirs, grandparents play an irreplaceable role in how their children and grandchildren turn out. It's not often that you get such a significant second chance to make a difference on earth and for eternity.
Our grandchildren are watching us. They are quietly taking notes with the hope that from what they learn they can take their cues for living a meaningful life. God has given them parents and teachers and coaches-good people from whom they will learn much. But it is to us, their grandparents, that He has given the task of showing whether a life of faith can carry a person through to the end and ultimately enable them to finish strong.
A lot of you are young. You have the luxury of being actively involved in your grandchildren's lives. How we are living as grandparents now, while we're young and energetic, will play a significant role in how we are viewed when our physical limitations finally have their way. Our passionate commitment to being godly and gracious grandparents now will become the symbolic persona that our grandchildren will attach to us then.
Being a grandparent is a reminder to all of us that eventually we will run out of time. Although we may have a lot of years left on earth, there is most likely fewer years left ahead of us than there are behind us. What do you want your life to count for? What is your mission going to be for the rest of your life? Do you want it to be leisure? Do you want it to be the accumulation of more material possessions that you have to leave behind? Or do you want to use these last semesters of your life to make an eternal difference? Your role as a grandparent offers you one of the most significant opportunities to leave a legacy that never dies.
Several years ago, there were two grandparents lying in an Intensive Care Unit in a small-town hospital in Pennsylvania. One was a lady named Winnie. The other was a man who was a financial pillar of the community. Winnie was a high school graduate. The man across the room had an Ivy League education. Winnie had worked for slightly above minimum wage all of her life. The man was one of the titans of local industry. Winnie was dying with a couple hundred dollars in the bank. The man was dying with more money in the bank than most people make in five lifetimes. But the difference was that Winnie was rich, and the dying man across the ICU really had little to show for his life.
They both had children and they both had grandchildren. For the entire time that they laid across the room from each other, Winnie had a constant stream of children and grandchildren coming to be by her side. The many people she had lived her life for were now traveling from all the points of the compass just to hold her hand and stand by her side to the end.
The man across the room had no visitors. He had lived for himself when he was young and had indulged himself as he got older. Now -- with time running out, he suddenly realized that it was too late. He had purchased all of the recognition, accolades, and applause he had received. But because he had not left his mark on the hearts of the people he loved, no one came to hold his hand and to weep over him when he died.
Late one evening, as the nurse was preparing him for a night of sleep, he inquired about the woman across the room with all the children and the grandchildren. The nurse told him her name and a little about her family. He asked, "What are her chances of surviving?" The nurse said, "None. She will be fortunate to live another few days." After a long pause, he said, "I wish I could change places with Winnie. I'd give everything I have to be what she is to her family."
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