Second, monitor. Unplug the iPod from your child's ears and check song lists.  Don't recognize the songs? Try Pluggedin.com for the latest music reviews.

Take the time to become familiar with the latest artists, celebrities, and songs so you don't rely on vague assurances of older siblings or neighbors that "it's all right." Use TV parental controls to block channels that feature music videos or music celebrities.

Third, don't facilitate bad choices. Pop singers perform to sell-out crowds across the country, even in today's recession.  As one observer noted after Rihanna's lewd performance, "The children attending these shows must have gotten there somehow."

Fourth, provide alternatives.  We can't simply say "no"—we need to spend time promoting the good too.  There are many artists who still have high standards and are actually true musicians.  Help support them by introducing your children to them too.

Finally, be consistent. Don't let battle fatigue wear you down. Our children need to know that we protect them because we love them. And even when we're tired or worn down, that will never change.

© 2010 Rebecca Hagelin. www.howtosaveyourfamily.com