• Who is the most influential teacher in your life?

If Mom was not the answer to most or all of these questions, then whoever was is probably the primary influence in your life — whether you’ve realized it or not. And, chances are, you’re missing out on the benefits that follow from your mom’s teaching.

So please don’t wait another moment. Bring Mom into the content of your life. This may be a new idea for you, but start by doing something simple. Begin by talking to your mom. Share with her what you’ve been thinking about lately, and tell her that you desire for her to be your primary mentor. I am confident that God will bless even this small step.

Moms, maybe you find the responsibility to be your daughter’s primary teacher quite daunting. If so, remember that God has called you to be her mother. And when God calls, He enables. He supplies all the wisdom, strength, insight, encouragement, hope, creativity, help, and grace you could possibly need to teach the language of biblical womanhood to your daughter.

So don’t hang back and wait for your daughter to come to you. With confidence in God’s abundant grace, step up and begin to impart wisdom and instruction to her.

And finally, girls, don’t forget the book of Proverbs’ predictions. If we heed our mother’s advice and receive her teaching, we will find peace, favor, and good success (Prov. 3:2, 4). So let’s ask for God’s help to put Mom back on the front cover where she belongs.

 1. Donna Greene, Growing Godly Women: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Mentoring Teenage Girls (Birmingham, Ala.: New Hope Publishers, 2002), 43.

 2. Paul David Tripp, Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens (Phillipsburg, N.J.: P&R Publishing, 2001), 41.

 3. Ibid.

This column is part of an ongoing series on Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood. Read last month's installment Your Mother-Daughter Relationship: Imperfect Makes Perfect.

Carolyn Mahaney is a wife, mother, homemaker, and the author of Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother, and Girl Talk: Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood. During her more than 30 years as a pastor’s wife, Carolyn has spoken to women in many churches and conferences, including those of Sovereign Grace Ministries, which her husband, C.J., leads. C.J. and Carolyn have three married daughters and one twelve-year-old son, Chad.

Nicole Mahaney Whitacre is the oldest daughter of C.J. and Carolyn Mahaney, as well as a wife, mother, and homemaker. She assisted her mother with Feminine Appeal, and is the co-author of Girl Talk. Nicole and her husband, Steve, have one son, Jack.

Carolyn and her three daughters keep a  weblog for women in all seasons of life, also entitled "Girl Talk."

This column was adapted for Crosswalk from Girl Talk: Mother-Daughter Conversations on Biblical Womanhood (Crossway 2005) by Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Mahaney Whitacre © 2005 (Used by permission of Crossway Books, a division of Good News Publishers, Wheaton, IL 60187,  http://www.gnpcb.org.)