Organize to Thrive as a Mom at Home
- Wednesday, January 03, 2007
Make space for sanity. Clear out mental clutter by asking the Holy Spirit to renew your mind daily, help you focus on what’s most important, and have the right attitudes to live well. Clear out clutter in your home by simplifying your lifestyle and making do with less stuff, handling each piece of paper (such as bills or schoolwork) only once before dealing with it or filing it, and storing every object in your house in a designated place.
Give up perfectionism and control. Realize that it’s futile to try to be perfect and that perfectionism can actually cause you to miss out on God’s best for your life. Rather than striving to fulfill unrealistically high expectations of yourself, relax your standards. Think about the worst that could possibly happen if you can’t do what you hope to do in a given situation, and realize that the outcome would probably something you could live with just fine. Don’t despair when your best-laid plans go awry. Expect the unexpected and be flexible. Pray regularly, relinquishing control of your life to God. Trust God to work out even the worst situations to accomplish good purposes in your life.
Plan enjoyable meals. Recognize the power that family meals have to draw you all closer to each other. Do your best to eat at least one meal a day together and have dinner together at least four nights a week when your husband isn’t on a business trip. View meals as more than just nourishment for your bodies; see them as nourishment for your souls, as well. Create an enjoyable experience at each mealtime. Try some new recipes, play music, discuss a topic of interest to everyone, or hold a simple devotional time while you eat.
Make time for yourself. Don’t let your responsibilities caring for others overwhelm you and cause you to neglect yourself. Understand that you can ultimately care for others better if you’ve had your own needs met first. Make time regularly in your schedule to do anything you enjoy that doesn’t involve your kids’ immediate needs.
Develop and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Ask God to help you feel content with your life, no matter what your current circumstances. Drink at least eight glasses of water each day. Try to get eight hours of sleep each night. Set an exercise routine doing types of exercise you enjoy. Eat a healthy diet, including whole grains and plenty of calcium and fruits and vegetables. Ask God to help you like and respect your body. Work on keeping a healthy sexual relationship with your husband. Nurture your friendships with other women. Write down dreams and goals for yourself in different areas, such as: personal, marriage, family, spiritual, career, and financial. Then work each day to get closer to your goals.
Strengthen your connection to God. Make prayer a frequent habit. Read, study, and meditate on the Bible often. Get involved in a Mothers of Preschoolers group, a Moms in Touch prayer group, or a Bible study group. Join a church and contribute through service there. Teach your children how to grow closer to God themselves, such as by giving each of them a Bible of their own, pointing out how God is at work in their lives, participating in devotions together, worshiping to praise music together, practicing hospitality and working on service projects in your community together.
Strengthen your marriage. Don’t let your parenting responsibilities cause you to neglect your relationship with your husband. Keep investing significant amounts of time and energy into your marriage. Go out on dates regularly. Make a list of your husband’s dreams and help make some of them come true. Initiate sex with your husband sometimes. Set up boundaries to help you both stay faithful to each other. Pray for God to protect your marriage, or, if either of you has been unfaithful, that He would heal your relationship and restore trust between you.
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