Create a rhythm that works well for your family's schedule. Be intentional about how you spend time with your kids and consistent about how often you spend time together. Figure out the best times of day and night to enjoy meaningful conversations with your children, such as while eating meals together, walking or traveling together, tucking them into bed, and just after getting up in the morning. Keep in mind that kind of people you want your kids to ultimately become, so you can plan discussions and activities in light of that. Aim for helping your children become people wh pursue relationships with God, love others the way God does, and see themselves the way God sees them. Learn what your church is teaching your kids every week, and reinforce those same lessons at home through your discussions and activities in fun ways that naturally fit into your children's schedules. Participate in family worship services and family events at your church together, and talk about it afterward.

Pursue personal growth so you can become the kind of person you want your kids to eventually become. Make the time to invest in your own spiritual growth regularly so you can develop faith and character you need to be an excellent role model for your children. Show them through your own life what it looks like to prioritize Jesus above all else.

Mobilize your family to demonstrate God's love to a broken world. Remember that your family's mission isn't to protect your children; it's to mobilize them to demonstrate God's love to the world. Encourage your kids to take the risks God calls them to take to join Him on adventures in the world, serving others and pointing them to Him. Give your children plenty of consistent ministry opportunities while they're growing up so they can learn how to say "yes" to God's calls and experience the joy of accomplishing something significant. Connect your kids to a story greater than what's going on in your own family - the story of how God is working in the world.

Adapted from Parenting Beyond Your Capacity: Connect Your Family to a Wider Community, copyright 2010 by Reggie Joiner and Carey Nieuwhof.  Published by David C. Cook, Colorado Springs, Co.,

Reggie Joiner is the founder and Chief Creative Officer of The reThink Group, a non-profit organization providing resources and training to help churches maximize their influence on the spiritual growth of the next generation. He is the author of Think Orange and The Orange Leader Handbook. He is also the architect of the Orange Conference and one of the founders of North Point Community Church. He and his wife live in Cumming, Georgia, and have four grown children.

Carey Nieuwhof is the lead pastor of Connexus Community Church with campuses in Barrie and Orillia, Ontario, Canada. Before moving into full-time ministry, he worked in law and broadcasting. He and his wife, Toni, live in East Oro, Ontario, with their two sons.