Parents of Teens Must Adapt
- Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Change Your Attitudes
Changing your style of parenting teens in order to meet the demands of today’s world also means that you refocus your own attitudes and behavior as well:
- Move from lecturing to discussing
- Move from entertaining to experiencing something together
- Move from demanding everything, to asking them their ideas about everything
- Move from seeking justice to giving grace
- Move from seeing everything that’s wrong and finding more of what’s right
- Move from spending time always telling them to more time listening
- Move from giving your opinion to waiting until you are asked.
It is difficult for teens today to grow up and move on. They tend to like their immaturity, and don’t feel the need to grow in their responsibilities. Teaching them to grow and own their attitudes and choices is one of the most important character qualities we can help them develop.
So, don’t just tell them they need to be responsible, or that they need to be mature. Instead, carefully identify what is going on in their world, and begin to set out boundaries that give them responsibility and cause them to act upon them. And when the next new thing comes along, learn to adjust the boundaries in ways that help them continue to recognize their need to be mature, responsible, and own up to the consequences of their choices.
Mark Gregston is a radio host, author and the Founder and Executive Director of Heartlight Ministries. To read more of his blogs on parenting troubled teens, please visit www.markgregston.com/. He can be reached at 903-668-2173 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
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