Pray for your kids’ missions in life. Pray that your kids will: know God’s missions for their lives and how to fulfill those missions, and love serving others as a regular part of their lifestyles.

Pray for your kids’ role models. Ask God to help you be a great role model for your kids. Keep in mind that they’ll take their cues from you when it comes to topics like relationships, money, forgiveness, sexuality, church participation, and how you treat people like the poor, the elderly, and people of different races. Your kids will notice when you pray and when you don’t, how often you read the Bible, and how often you serve others. Pray for God to give you the right strategy for how to disciple your kids. Pray for God to strengthen other important role models in your kids’ lives, such as: teachers, coaches, church leaders, scout leaders, mentors, their friends, and their friends’ parents.

Pray to be able to let go of your kids well so they can become healthy adults. Your kids will need to gradually transfer their dependence from you to God as they grow up. Letting go of your kids will help you parent more strategically, mature as a person, help your kids mature, prepare your kids for life’s tests, increase your faith, help you look to God for your kids’ protection, and see your kids through God’s eyes rather than just your own.

As you pray for God to prepare your kids to function as healthy young adults, pray that your kids will: trust God instead of people or things, have an unshakable character, learn to choose delayed gratification over immediate fulfillment, practice good financial management, and be relationally mature. Pray that you will have the courage to let your kids make their own choices and resist intervening and rescuing them unless absolutely necessary.

Pray for your kids’ spiritual inheritance. Your own spiritual choices will create a huge wave of spiritual blessing or cursing that your kids, grandkids, and future generations will inherit. Pray for the strength to avoid sin and make faithful choices that will leave a legacy of blessing. Ask God to show you how to change unhealthy parts of the legacy that your own parents and grandparents left you, so the pattern of various sins in your family will stop with you. Pray for God to bestow spiritual favor on you, your kids, and on multiple generations after them.

Adapted from Pray Big for Your Child: The Power of Praying God’s Promises for Your Child’s Life, copyright 2009 by Will Davis, Jr. Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Mich., www.revellbooks.com.     

Will Davis, Jr. (DMin., Southwestern Seminary) is the founding and senior pastor of Austin Christian Fellowship, a nondenominational church in Austin, Texas. He is the author of Pray Big, Pray Big for Your Marriage, and Why Faith Makes Sense.