Get the support you need.  Don't burn yourself out by trying to do too much on your own.  Recognize that your kids would benefit as much as you from having people trustworthy people who care about them invest in their lives.  Reach out to people to help you with child care and other practical needs you have, and be sure to offer them some help in return.  Make building friendships with others for social enjoyment a high priority, too.

Organize to experience more peace.  Ask God to help you organize your time, paperwork, and home so you can eliminate unnecessary stress from your life and enjoy more peace.  Pray for the guidance you need to set up a successful system to guide your kids' behavior, complete with age-appropriate rules, consequences, and incentives.

Manage your money wisely.  Set a budget that reflects biblical values like giving, saving, and avoiding debt.  Keep track of when various bills are due so you can plan an effective schedule for paying them on time, and plan for how you'll afford future goals like taking vacations with your kids, buying new appliances, replacing your car, and paying for your kids' college education.

Build your career.  Find a job that pays enough for you to have the income level you need to support your kids well, and once you're earning the amount of money you need, then focus on expanding your career to find the best opportunities to pursue your interests and use your talents professionally.

Renew your confidence.  Pray about every problem you face and every concern you have, and expect God to help you.  Ask God to give you the confidence you need to believe in yourself as a person and a parent when others criticize you.  Thank God regularly for His work in your life, and let the evidence of His ongoing care for you give you fresh confidence every day.

Communicate wisely with your kids' father.  Ask God to help you communicate in positive ways with your kids' father so you both can work together as a team to do what's best for your kids.

Adapted from God Loves Single Moms: Practical Help for Finding Confidence, Strength, and Hope, copyright 2010 by Theresa Whitehurst. Published by Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Mich., www.revellbooks.com.   

Teresa Whitehurst is a clinical psychologist who provides counseling as well as personal and career coaching.  She has worked as a psychotherapist for many years in private practice, at Harvard Medical School, and at Kaiser-Permanente. Dr. Whitehurst writes and speaks on parenting and personal development issues and is the author of How Would Jesus Raise Your Child?  She is a single mom who has two adult daughters and two grandchildren.