The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly (John10:10, NASB).

“I should be dead, paralyzed, or locked up in prison.”

These are the words I use on a regular basis when sharing my testimony with others. I tell them of how although I grew up in affluence and had advantages many others my age did not, the lack of a full-time or strong father figure in my life left a hole that would eventually become filled through other worldly pursuits. Beginning in my teen years and lasting the next decade+, I engaged in countless self-destructive behaviors such as alcohol and drug addiction, sexual immorality, and the mentality that although I didn’t have much to live for, I thought I was invincible. I have seen the pits of hell here on earth and it is only through my hope and faith in Jesus Christ that I am now experiencing that “life abundantly” he so graciously promises. 

This is not just another testimony story; it is me sharing what God has done in my life to give anyone out there, especially single dads or those of you who may know a single father, a glimpse of the grace and salvation that is offered to each one of us every single day.

Never Knew What Hit Me

I was born into a family that ran rampant with sin on both sides. Greed, addiction, and adultery topped the list, but that is only the tip of the iceberg. My parents were never married, but my dad did provide for us extremely well financially. I was given a lot of “stuff,” but never the love, security, and foundation every child needs. Thus, when I hit high school and the world came a knockin’, I fell right into the traps that lay ahead. My addiction eventually got to the point where I began to both use and sell narcotics; and nearly self-destructed on several occasions after a couple overdoses and a horrendous car accident. I recall a few times when the shame and self-hatred was so overbearing that I would literally punch myself over and over again in the face, one time even knocking myself out. I remember laying on the sofa in the fetal position, bawling my eyes out, because I saw no way out of my life. Not growing up in a Christian home, I had no personal relationship with God, but that doesn’t mean he wasn’t ever so close as he was then.

A New Lineage

…for you have been born again not of seed which is perishable but imperishable, that is, through the living and enduring word of God (1 Peter 1:23).

I didn’t really begin to attend church regularly until 2001; and even then, I continued on a rollercoaster of commitment, obedience, and knowledge of God for the next six years. It wasn’t until January of 2007 when my daughter was about eight months old that I finally made the greatest decision any of us could ever make. As the pastor spoke, I felt a burning in my heart similar to that of the disciples’ in Luke 24. I couldn’t wait for the altar call and I responded with an excitement and hope like I had never experienced before. I once and for all fully surrendered my life to the Lordship of Jesus Christ, was baptized four months later and founded A Father’s Walk the following year. Since then I have seen generational curses drop like chains over me and my daughter and I now have a foundation to stand on that cannot be shaken. I am already seeing the way God changes family lineages too, as back in December of 2012 at the precious age of six, my daughter responded to her own altar call at church and gave her life to Christ! Best of all, I got to be the one to lead her in prayer that day.