Give them to Jesus. As my kids walk out to visitation, almost each time I say something like (from Psalms 121:8 “God guards your coming and your going!”  That’s the shorthand we have for, “God is with you.  God will be with you.  God is watching every move.  God will get you through all this.”  It is only through reminding myself that God created them, God numbers their days, and God loves my children infinitely more than I do that I can keep walking, that I can let them go out that door each time.  Pray for them.  Pray over them.  Tell God how scared you are for them, how sad you are for them.  Ask him to protect them, to heal them, to strengthen them.  Ask God to help them make good choices in their future despite what’s going on now.  Ask God to redeem their pain. 

I believe one of the reasons that God says he hates divorce in the book of Malachi 2:16 s this very thing --- it breaks his heart that our children are put through the wringer.  But in Exodus 15:26 , God reminds us very clearly, “I am the Lord, who heals you.”  And he will heal our children too.

Elisabeth K. Corcoran is mom to Sara (15-1/2) and Jack (14).  She loves spending time with her kids, her friends, reading and writing.  She is the author of At the Corner of Broken & Love: Where God Meets Us in the Everyday; One Girl, Third World: One Woman’s Journey into Social Justice; He Is Just That Into You: Stories of a Faithful God who Pursues, Engages, and Has No Fear of Commitment; In Search of Calm: Renewal for a Mother’s Heart; and Calm in My Chaos: Encouragement for a Mom’s Weary Soul.  All these books can be purchased on in paperback or Kindle.

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If you are in a difficult marriage or find yourself going through a difficult divorce, I have created two private groups on Facebook that I would like to invite you to. Simply email me at, let me know if you're interested in the married group or separated/divorced group, then send me a friend request on Facebook. If you're in need of some encouragement, I invite you to join us.

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Publication date: October 11, 2012