1. Pray FOR your children’s mother regularly. I’m sure some of you want to wring my neck right about now, but take it from a guy who’s been on both sides of the tracks and know that this not only blesses her, but you AND your children as well. (See Matthew 5:44 and 1 Peter 3:9 for a couple of examples)

2. Seek God earnestly and fervently through His Word and prayer. Basically, the more time you spend with God, the better prepared you will be for when the moments of testing come. (Jeremiah 33:3Matthew 7:24-27)

3. “Resistance equals growth”- one of my favorite lines in my book. Basically, life’s resistance (difficulties, stress, etc) remain constant throughout life - we just become more conditioned to handle them (see chapter 9 in my book for a more detailed description). Also, be sure to check out James 1:2-4  noting the part where James says that we will be “perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

The life of a single parent is hard, no doubt about it. But remember, we have a choice each and every day. We can choose to play the victim - or the victor. I am here to tell you today that victory is already yours if you are indeed a follower of Jesus Christ. Walk in confidence today knowing that you have a High Priest that has already gone on before you and cleared the path, for it is in this truth that we become more than conquerors! 

Matt Haviland is the founder of “A Father’s Walk” single dad ministry and the author of the book, A Father’s Walk: A Christian-Based Resources for Single Fathers. He currently lives in his hometown of Grand Rapids, MI and is a single dad to a beautiful little girl himself. For more information on the ministry, please visit www.afatherswalk.org.  

Publication date: March 14, 2013