Not Alone

Although it is still difficult for Sarah to comprehend the actuality of this happening to her family, she knows they are not the only ones fighting the battle. "I have learned through all of this that pornography affects so many families. Many people have experienced the hurt and shame this causes but are just unwilling to share it," Sarah said.

She is also saddened by the realization that "churches don't seem to deal directly with this huge issue that is running rampant in our society."

The reality is that it is happening to families nationwide as pornography keeps a tight rein on the hidden hearts of millions of believers and non-believers. However, these reins are not too tight to be loosed through the power of prayer.

"No matter where you are in your struggle with pornography addiction or sexual addiction, prayer is the beginning of change ... ," said Tom Buford of Fires of Darkness, a former pornography addict.

A steadfast relationship with Christ continues to bring Sarah and her family through the dark days of pornography. "He has blessed us 'with every spiritual blessing,'" Sarah said. "He does always receive the glory and I am seeing this daily, even on the hardest day."

Resources for Those Dealing with Sexual Sin -- Website of Pure Life Ministries, a premier ministry to Christians dealing with sexual sin. Ministry includes an intense 6- to 12-month resident care program. -- On-line site of Fires of Darkness, a Christian ministry founded by Tom and Mera Buford. Excellent source of information and resources for those addicted to pornography and for their spouses. -- Website of Morality In Media, an interfaith organization that works to combat obscenity and uphold decency standards in the media. -- A powerful Internet filter developed by Bsafe and endorsed by the American Family Association.


Rebecca Grace, a regular contributor to AgapePress, is a staff writer with AFA Journal, a monthly publication of the American Family Association. This article appeared in the September 2004 issue.