Single adults can easily get lost in their own frustration and loneliness, losing sight of the bigger picture. 

Throughout the course of human history, various individuals have risen up from the masses to leave a mark on our lives:  inventors, politicians, philosophers, artists, and religious leaders.  All had at least one thing in common:  they were visionaries who saw beyond themselves.  They passionately dedicated their lives to causes greater than their own individual worlds.  When people catch a glimpse of something much larger than themselves, something they deeply believe in, seemingly nothing is too difficult for them.  They frequently are willing to give their lives for such a cause.

This is the true nature of our relationship with God.  John Piper says it this way:  "God is the most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in Him."1  Have you ever truly been "satisfied in him" and him alone?  The ultimate cause worth living for is falling in love with Christ, either for the first time or coming back to your "first love" all over again (Revelation 2:4).  God deeply desires a genuine love relationship with you.

Perhaps you aren't even sure what that looks like.  It's crucial to your becoming whole both personally and sexually.  We'd like to give you some practical steps for cultivating intimacy with God.  Many more ideas could be listed here, but this will at least get you started.

Cultivating a Love Relationship:  Letters

Creating a more intimate and fulfilling relationship with God begins with learning about him.  What does he care about?  What pleases him?  What saddens him?  With a human lover, one way to express your thoughts and feelings is through love letters.  You might write about big things, small things, and everything in between.

In much the same way, God has written many love letters to you in the form of Scripture.  The Bible is filled with stories about how God feels on lots of things.  It also contains letters of instruction, sharing God's heart about certain matters.  There's also an entire section of poetry, much of which reveals God's character.  Learning about God is vital to having a relationship with him.  How can you have an intimate relationship with someone you don't know that well?

If you're new to studying Scripture, you might try visiting your local Christian bookstore and thumbing through different translations of the Bible for yourself.  Dozens of good English translations are available today.  The key is finding one you can easily understand.  Consider one that includes study notes.  While you shouldn't rely upon such notes to the degree you would trust God's inspired Word in Scripture itself, they can often help you better apply God's Word to your everyday life.  Ask your minister or the bookstore's manager to help you with this decision.  While you're at it, ask about Bible study material or other Christian literature that can also further your learning.  Other ways to grow your love relationship with God might include attending a Bible class at a local church, subscribing to a daily devotional guide, and listening to sermons or praise music on the radio, television, or the Internet.  Keeping a personal journal of how the Holy Spirit speaks to you during your study time is a great way to document God's personal activity in your life.  Later on, when God seems either silent or difficult to understand, your journal may serves as a tangible reminder of how he has already spoken and worked through you.

Deepening Your Love Relationship:  Conversations

Reading Scripture is God's primary way of talking with you; prayer is your primary way of talking with him.  Prayer is simply having a conversation with God, much like you would have with another person.  What should you talk about?  Anything!  Whatever is on your heart is a great place to start (see Philippians 4:6).  Because of who God is, it's also appropriate to let him know how much he means to you and how much you love certain things about him.