1 Corinthians 6:12

1 Corinthians 6:12All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.

If all my relationships with men are clearly friendships only and not friendationships, then I will recognize when there might be "something more." And I think that is worth waiting for. Don't get ahead of God. Don't settle for something short of God's ideal plan. And for those of us who struggle with the need for physical affection, the need to do for others, for that affirmation... get a dog. Just kidding! Seriously though, I find spending extra time with my nieces and nephews (who think I am the greatest, who give big hugs) helps a lot. I find serving the Lord, serving through ministry, and helping others also fills in this need. Visit a nursing home, watch the babies at church, help fix someone’s home or go on a mission's trip and God will fill that empty heart with more love than you could imagine.

And oh, sometimes after you have had the DTR conversation, you have to have it again as time goes by. For some reason we are creatures of habit and can fall right back into the "friendationship." Don't be discouraged.

Blessings as you seek God in all things, including our friendships.

Kris Swiatocho is the President and Director of TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries and FromHisHands.com Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. She is the author of three books: Singles and Relationships: A 31-Day Experiment (co-authored with Dick Purnell of Single Life Resources); From the Manger to the Cross: The Women in Jesus' Life; and the most recent, Jesus, Single Like Me with Study Questions (includes a leader's guide and conference/retreat of the same name). Kris is currently working on her fourth book: FAQ's of Singles Ministry coming this fall 2012.

TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries helps churches, pastors and single adult leaders evaluate, develop and support their single adult ministries through high-energy speaking engagements, results-oriented consulting and training and leadership development conferences and seminars. Click here to request a FREE "How to Start a Single Adult Ministry" guide.  

FromHisHands.com Ministries is Kris' speaking ministry. If you've ever heard her speak, you know that Kris is the kind of speaker who keeps the crowd captivated, shares great information and motivates people to make a difference in the lives of those around them! She speaks to all church audiences on everything from "first impression" ministry to women's topics to singles and young adults. She can speak on a Sunday morning, at a woman's retreat or for a single adults conference. Bring Kris to your church today!

Publication date: September 20, 2012