And in part, that’s true. Nobody can control the way you choose to perceive your circumstances. How you look at a challenge in your life is totally up to you. Nobody's holding a gun to your head saying, "Think self-defeating thoughts about this or I'll shoot you!" So if you want to stay in the cage of a perspective that leaves you feeling powerless and defeated, you absolutely can. That’s your prerogative.

But here’s the thing: You don't have to. You really, really don't have to.

Marcel Proust wrote, "The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." Oftentimes the reason we haven't found the solution we’re looking for isn't because the struggle is too big or we're too small or God is too absent or Satan is too strong. It's because the cage we've chosen to sit in is blocking our view of the answer that’s been right in front of us all along.

Michael D. Warden is a Professional Co-Active Coach, nationally trained through the Coaches Training Institute in San Rafael, CA, and a member of the International Coach Federation. Michael’s clients’ one common trait is their passion to live a bigger life — to discover what they're here for, and boldly go after that vision with confidence and authenticity. Find more on his life and work at