You see, in all of my efforts, God was not leading the charge.  I was.  I really wasn’t watching and waiting and following His direction.  I was making my own path.  But every way I tried going was just a dead-end.  I finally realized this and found that God was leading me in another way.  His way.  Which didn’t look anything like anyone else’s way of how to do life as a single person.

Now, all of that is not to say that this is not the year when you will get married.  I don’t know what God is saying to you.  He could have placed this desire on the front burner in your life.  He could be impressing upon you to change your priorities and preparing you to meet your future mate. 

Just make sure you wait on the Lord and trust in him.  He will show you what He wants you to do.  He may have you join a dating service.  Or he may have you read a particular book or socialize with a certain group of people.  Just make sure that he is the one who is leading you to do these things. 

Now, how you will you know that?  By spending time with the Lord, so that you may recognize his voice and know him better (John 10:4, Ephesians 1:17).  Study the Scriptures and make Proverbs 3:5-6 your daily motto.

In the meantime, fill your life with meaningful activities and uplifting friends.  And love and serve the Lord in all that you do.  He is more than able to bring that certain someone to you and fit him into your life. 


DISCLAIMER:  We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals.  We’re just singles like you who understand what it’s like to live the solo life in the 21st century.  We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life’s questions, and it’s where we’ll go for guidance when responding to your questions.

GOT A QUESTION?  If you’ve got a question about anything related to singleness, please CLICK HERE to submit (selected questions will be posted anonymously).  While we are unable to answer every inquiry, we do hope that He Said-She Said will be an encouragement to you.

HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades.  He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is … Laura MacCorkle, Crosswalk.com’s Senior Entertainment Editor.  While she’s still holding out for Mr. Right, Laura has recently downsized her “perfect” wedding day ideal from high-budget, blow-out extravaganza to inexpensive, beachfront ceremony or informal, backyard barbecue.