I have experienced that.  There have been many, many times when I have felt like no one was helping me or I had been given the short end of the relationship stick or that "the world was against me" or that married people just don't understand.  Believe me.  And then an opportunity was presented for me to reach out and do something for someone else.  First, I grumbled internally and wrestled with God.  And then finally, I gave up and submitted and did what God was asking of me.  And every time—every time—I was richly blessed.  I don't know how God does that, but he does.  If we are willing.  If we are obedient.  If we give our lives to him in service and do whatever it is he is asking us to do for him.  For others.  For the Church. 

Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Ephesians 5:1-2).

HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades.  He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is …
Laura MacCorkle, Crosswalk.com's Senior Entertainment Editor.  She loves God, her family and and her friends.  Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who's counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one. 

DISCLAIMER:  We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals.  We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the 21st century.  We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life's questions, and it's where we'll go for guidance when responding to your questions.  Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately (we think they sound eerily similar sometimes, too!). 

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**This column first published on July 16, 2009.