My advice to you is to stay out there and continue being friends with the "just friends" women.  Why not?  You never know when the blinders will come off and someone's "just friends" feelings could change.  If God wants someone to see you in a different light, then he will make it so.  Also, you can learn a lot about the opposite sex when you're in "friends" mode.  You are more relaxed and so is your "friend."  No one is trying to impress anyone, and you are more likely to be yourself (which enables your "friend" to really see you as you are and vice versa).  Being "just friends" can only help you in further defining the type of spouse you may be looking for and, if God wills, also in preparing you (relationship dynamics) for a healthy and hopefully successful future marriage.


HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades.  He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is …
Laura MacCorkle, Senior Editor at Crosswalk.com.  She loves God, her family and her friends.  Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who's counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one. 

DISCLAIMER:  We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals.  We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the 21st century.  We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life's questions, and it's where we'll go for guidance when responding to your questions.  Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately (we think they sound eerily similar sometimes, too!). 

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**This column first published on November 25, 2010
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