Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29).

Every person and relationship is different and unique, created by God in this way.  Following these principles may help you to understand what is best for your specific relationship and for yourself.

For any guy who may have a problem with your girlfriend or wife making more money than you, it is not her problem.  It’s yours. 

Read Proverbs 31:10-31 for a biblical perspective of a wife.

For the ladies who feel uncomfortable making more than your boyfriend or husband, it is not your problem.  It’s his.  A relationship should encourage and raise you up, not discourage or bring you down.

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude (1 Corinthians 13:4).

SHE SAID:  A woman’s income being more than a man’s should only cause a problem if she cannot allocate a portion toward a monthly shoe allowance.  This is a highly imperative necessity for any member of the female species.  Beyond that small issue, what’s the problem?

I’m only kidding.  Seriously, this is an important issue that needs to be pondered—especially if a couple is in a committed dating relationship with intentions to marry. 

Money in and of itself is not right or wrong.  On the surface, it’s just a tool to help us survive on Planet Earth.  But the more we study the Scriptures, I think we start realizing just how much money can affect us and our relationships.

The Bible talks about money more than almost any other subject matter.  Think about that.  Now why would God do this?  Because he knows that money can very easily accomplish either good or evil.  Bring together or split apart.  It’s a fine line, and money is that powerful in the life of a human being. 

Consider these verses and the corresponding questions …

Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.  This too is meaningless (Ecclesiastes 5:10,NIV). 

  • At a point in time when you made less money than you do now, how did you feel? 
  • And then when you got a pay raise, what were you thinking? 
  • Would you voluntarily give up the increase now and go back to a lower level of compensation? 

No one can serve two masters.  Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.  You cannot serve both God and Money (Matthew 6:24, NIV). 

  • Are your life decisions based on money or on what God wants you to do (regardless of the cost)? 
  • Are you proactive in giving your money away or do you wait until you are asked or prodded to do so?

For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.  Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs (1 Timothy 6:10, NIV). 

  • If you are in a higher tax bracket now since beginning your career, can you say that you are closer to the Lord in your spiritual walk? 
  • Or do most of your thoughts revolve around money matters (bills, investments, acquiring material possessions, etc.)? 

I think the answer to your question lies in your view of money.  To whom does it belong?  Is everything God’s or are you clinging very tightly to your financial holdings and to the false “power” that money provides you?