It’s true. Think about the friends you know who are married to or are dating non-Christians. And what do their spiritual lives look like now? Are they growing spiritually or have they regressed? Have they withdrawn from church fellowship? Has their speech changed? Do they not want to talk about spiritual matters any longer? Are they doing things now that they didn’t do before they were yoked with those who aren’t believers?

“For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?” Nothing. “Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” It can’t.   

“We are the temple of the living God.” Remember that as you make decisions as they relate to dating and marriage. Our lives are not our own. We were bought and paid for, redeemed and given hope of eternal life. We are holy. We are set apart. God is living inside of us by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.

This will be hard, as you begin to detach emotionally and let go of any hopes and dreams you may have held in your heart regarding this man. So allow some healthy space between you. (Yes, God can still draw your friend to himself, but that is between your friend and the Lord.) Hopefully as you share with your friend why you cannot consider him for marriage, this will be a good opportunity for you to share more about your faith and why what you believe the Bible says is so crucial in decision making for your life.


HE is … Cliff Young, a contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is … 
Laura MacCorkle, Senior Editor at She loves God, her family and her friends. Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who's counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one. 

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