Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

(1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

You also said that you thought his ministry took priority over your relationship based on how much time he is spending with you. Have you talked with him about this and how you feel? New ministries and businesses take a lot of time to grow. It may appear he is prioritizing when, in fact, he is just working the extra hours to keep the ministry growing. Perhaps you can help him with the ministry. This way you could have that extra time with him plus allow the Lord to show you why your boyfriend is so passionate about the ministry. If you are going to be his wife, you will need to learn to love the ministry that God has called him too as well.

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. 

(Ephesians 5:33)

On the flip side, if he is truly ready for a serious relationship that is working towards marriage, then he will need to set time apart to be with you as well. He will have to find a way to balance. So spend some time in prayer, reading your Bible and asking God for the right words to say. Then I would sit down with your boyfriend and share how you feel. If he doesn't have time to put into building your relationship, then he doesn't have time to be married. Just trust the Lord that He is in control, that your relationship is His. You want to be married to who He has chosen for you. I pray the Lord's peace as you move forward.

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.

(Psalms 28:7)

HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is … Kris Swiatocho, the President and Director of TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries and FromHisHands.com Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. She is the author of three books: Singles and Relationships: A 31-Day Experiment (co-authored with Dick Purnell of Single Life Resources); From the Manger to the Cross: The Women in Jesus' Life; and the most recent, Jesus, Single Like Me with Study Questions (includes a leader's guide and conference/retreat of the same name).

DISCLAIMER: We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals. We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the twenty-first century. We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life's questions, and it's where we'll go for guidance when responding to your questions. Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately (we think they sound eerily similar sometimes, too!). 

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Publication date: November 22, 2012