But your illustration of a vacation could really symbolize a lot of things that are more “neutral” in our lives that the Bible doesn’t speak specifically about. Your money decisions are first and foremost between you and the Lord (Proverbs 3:9-10). He knows where your heart is (1 Samuel 16:7Matthew 6:21). If you are seeking his guidance and striving to obey his Word, then you are already tithing money to your church or other ministries or to specific individuals.

Do you have a peace about your current charitable decisions? Do you feel that the Father is pleased because you have been giving back to him what is already his? If so, then perhaps this trip to Europe is indeed God’s will for you (Philippians 4:7). And because of your faithfulness and obedience in being a good steward, wise saver and a cheerful giver, perhaps he is blessing you with this travel opportunity.

Beyond that, who knows what he could have planned for you should you take this vacation. Is there someone on the plane who will hear the Gospel for the first time because of your conversation with them while being stuck in an airborne metal tube for many hours? Is there a significant life change God wants you to make that he will show you while you’re away from the normal (and distracting) hustle and bustle of your everyday life?

I’m sure whoever told you that you will be disobedient by taking this trip has your best interests at heart. But do they truly know what is best for you in this gray matter? Do they know your motives? And do they know God’s plans and purposes for you in all of this? Only you will know, as you follow his will that he will reveal to you (Proverbs 3:5-6).

P.S. Let’s both pray he leads you to Europe!  


HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

Laura MacCorkleSHE is … 
Laura MacCorkle, Senior Editor at Crosswalk.com. She loves God, her family and her friends. Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who's counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one. 

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