“Let marriage be held in honor among us all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”Hebrews 13:4

 I do want to commend you for following your conviction and committing to future abstinence!  We all make mistakes and bad choices, and thankfully God’s forgiveness extends much farther than our sin ever could.

Now, secondly, you ask whether you should continue to “witness and wait” or move on. 

The passage you referenced (2 Corinthians 6:14) discusses the dangers and foolishness of being “yoked” with unbelievers, and the marriage relationship is the best example I can think of, of being “yoked” to someone else. And while it is true that a wife who becomes a Christian after her marriage should stay with her non-Christian husband if he will live peacefully with her (1 Corinthians 1:13) you are not a wife, and he is not your husband. Your boyfriend has already shown that he is not interested in following Christ; from what you wrote, it seems much more like he has been trying to make you happy and prolong your relationship than seek after a true relationship with Christ.

Both of you seem to have doubts as to the longevity of your relationship, which I think is the greatest indication that perhaps it should end. Continue to pray for him, and if he desires to be discipled get him in touch with some men at a local church. But if you are providing his only spiritual guidance, you can be sure that he is in it for you and not for God. 

HE is … cliff young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

SHE is …  Debbie Wright, Assistant Editor for Family Content at Crosswalk. She lives in Glen Allen, Virginia and is an avid writer, reader, and participant in local community theatre.

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Publication date: July 26, 2012