Moving On: How Do I Know I'm Ready?
- Thursday, October 25, 2012
If and when you meet that new guy in your life you will want to share some of your past. I would encourage you to pray about what to share and when. There are no guarantees anyone can accept all of your past and/or mistakes. This is simply the result of our sin. However, because we all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, we are assured that none of us deserves anything, but Christ died to give us everything. A man who says he loves the Lord should love you, mistakes and all.
Final thoughts: take it slow, building meaningful same sex friendships, then opposite sex friendships. Pray and ask God for His timetable, to let you know when you have healed enough to date again. Then step out in trust.
My steps have held to your paths; my feet have not slipped (Psalms 17:5).
HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.
SHE is … Kris Swiatocho, the President and Director of TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries and FromHisHands.com Ministries. Kris has served in ministry in various capacities for the last 25 years. An accomplished trainer and mentor, Kris has a heart to reach and grow leaders so they will in turn reach and grow others. She is the author of three books: Singles and Relationships: A 31-Day Experiment (co-authored with Dick Purnell of Single Life Resources); From the Manger to the Cross: The Women in Jesus' Life; and the most recent, Jesus, Single Like Me with Study Questions (includes a leader's guide and conference/retreat of the same name).
DISCLAIMER: We are not trained psychologists or licensed professionals. We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the twenty-first century. We believe that the Bible is our go-to guide for answers to all of life's questions, and it's where we'll go for guidance when responding to your questions. Also, it's important to note that we write our answers separately (we think they sound eerily similar sometimes, too!).
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Publication date: October 25, 2012
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