But we shouldn’t let the fear of rejection or failure paralyze us and keep us from where God is leading. Think of men in the Bible who were asked to do risky things and how they responded: Genesis 6 was asked to build a boat the size of one and a half football fields that took him 120 years to construct, and he did so; Genesis 22 was asked to kill his beloved son and sacrifice him as a burnt offering, and he started doing so until God intervened; Judges 7 was asked to lead an army of 300 men into a seemingly impossible night battle with only clay pots and lanterns, and he did so.

So back to you. If you are following God’s leading in this matter—and only you will know that as you have brought this to him in prayer and in your meditation upon the Word—then you must take the steps he is asking you to take, whatever should happen.

You are a man, and you were designed for this (pursuit . . . in addition to protection and provision). And you won’t know unless you ask, so it’s time to man up. If the woman says “no,” then I believe that God will give you the grace to handle seeing her at church in the days that follow. Perhaps this will work out. Or perhaps this is a test to see if you are ready to take any kind of risk at all in your life. Even if you don’t know the purpose though, if God is calling then you must answer and follow through with obedience and action.

I wish you the best. So be strong and courageous, my brother! (Deuteronomy 31:6)

 

HE is … Cliff Young, a Crosswalk.com contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades. He has traveled the world in search of fresh experiences, serving opportunities, and the perfect woman (for him) and has found that his investments in God, career and youth ministry have paid off in priceless dividends.

Laura MacCorkleSHE is … 
Laura MacCorkle, Senior Editor at Crosswalk.com. She loves God, her family and her friends. Singleness has taught her patience, deepened her walk with the Lord and afforded her countless (who's counting anyway?) opportunities to whip up an amazing three-course meal for one. 

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