Ministry is our primary calling no matter our circumstances. We single women need to view this time of life as our best opportunity for wide impact. Not because we necessarily have more free time, as people often mistakenly think, but because we have more freedom, a freedom that should be stewarded wisely.


Our independence as singles permits us a unique opportunity to influence every realm right now. Now is the time to:

• Help raise up the younger generation as adopted aunts.

• Serve as mother's helpers to the women around us.

• Mentor those with whom we work and live.

• Reach out to the unsaved.

• Be a bridge between the married and single women in our churches.


If you think about it, who better than the single to quietly show marrieds that our common ground is in God rather than in gift registries and strollers? Who better than singles to exemplify to singles how meaningful a life of ministry can be?


On a personal level - and this is perhaps what's most amazing - the differences between me and the married women in my church dissolve whenever I combine a ministry attitude toward my singleness with a servant's heart and hands. The women stop viewing me as "single," and start treating me as a peer - a woman just like them.


Consequently, when I do venture into marriage territory as a teacher or counselor, God's truth shines through. Not because I have lived the life myself, but because He is speaking through me as I minister in His church to His daughters. And that is never a hindrance.

Kris Bearss is an author, veteran speaker, mentor and Bible teacher who directs the discipleship and women's ministry areas at her church, Trinity: A Bible Fellowship, in Thompson's Station, Tennessee. She is also the editorial director at Integrity Publishers in Nashville.


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