Finally, there are those who feel the most comfortable sitting on the stern of the ship where we are sheltered from the conditions; however we only see the places we have been.  We have no indication or clue as to where we are going or any danger that lurks ahead.  We take life for what is handed to us, mostly going along for the ride. 

In the1997 movie, Titanic, Leonardo DiCaprio's character, Jack Dawson, takes his love interest, Rose DeWitt Bukater to the front of the ship.  He leans forward off the bow proclaiming, "I am king of the world," and he encourages her to experience what it is like to let go of her appropriateness and inhibitions she grew up with and lives. 

That is the imagery I have of someone who has left his past behind, living life with an eye to the future and facing today with anticipation and excitement.  Understandably, it is only a movie, but it helps us to visualize and contrast his character with an image of a person sitting on a deck chair in the stern with a blanket over himself going along for a ride.

If you look and long for the good old days or think about what wrongs the past has dealt you, consider how it adversely affects you each day.  You are not able to see, experience or enjoy today completely because you are living partially in yesterdays.  Solomon was alluding to this when he said, "Don't long for the good old days."  

The Lord wants all of us to approach him each and every day with a clean and open heart, not with ghosts, regrets or hardships from the past or harboring ill feelings toward others who have done us wrong.

Matthew encourages us to work through any problems we may have with another person before we approach him.

If you are offering your gift in front of the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar, go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift (Matthew 5:23-24).

If you are held captive by or haunted from experiences or people from the past, get help with them, and do it soon.  Yesterday is gone.  Why live your life thinking, worrying about or carrying "stuff" around from days gone by? 

Each day has enough trouble of its own (Matthew 6:34).

Life is hard enough when we are committed to today, don't live in or allow yesterday to rob you of the present or damage your future.

I try to learn from the past, but I plan for the future by focusing exclusively on the present.

—Donald Trump

Cliff Young is a contributing writer to Sandlot Stories (ARose Books), as well as the monthly column, "He Said-She Said," in's Singles Channel.  An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian musicians and consults for a number of Christian ministries. Got feedback?  Send your comments and questions to 

**This article first published on June 17, 2010.