Now my experience in helping people with this exercise is that some persons tend to pick it up quite naturally while others have a miserable time getting into it. The latter must be patient and persistent. The exercise virtually always works for everyone eventually. The secret is to stay with it.

 

Some individuals have difficulty, I think, because they have been taught to deny their feelings. Society tends to foster a deep distrust of feelings. So some persons' feelings become buried and hard to reach.

 

It should be pointed out in response to this distrust that I never encourage anyone to let their feelings control their behavior. Quite to the contrary! But our goal here is to help you get in close touch with what affects you, assuming that is the best way for you to "see" your anger coming.

 

In part two of this series we will examine exercise number two, my recommendation to keep an "Anger Diary."

 

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