Not everyone who abstains from sex until marriage always lives happily ever after. But those who choose to live as God intended in the area of sexuality avoid the wide road that ultimately leads to death and destruction (STDs and AIDS, unplanned pregnancy, abortion, illegitimate births, divorce, etc.). Those who decide to follow God and not the world have chosen the narrow road, which promises life and peace.

When I hold up a hundred dollar bill while speaking, I ask the audience, “Who wants this?” The majority of people sit waving their hands around, shouting, ”Me! Me! I want that!” But the person who gets to keep it:

1. Sees the opportunity
Know the options and the consequences.
2. Makes the decision to get up out of his or her chair
Make a decision.
3. Ignores what their peers are, or aren’t, doing
Find others who will support your decision.
4. Comes down to the front and pulls it out of my hand
Plan and act.

The Naked Truth is that wanting something is not enough. If you really want it, you’ve got to get up and do something about it. Whatever choice you make, begin with the end in mind. That means, choose today whom to serve! All we have to do is open up the Bible to Proverbs 3:16 to discover that “the fear of the Lord will give you long life, riches, honor, pleasure and peace.” It is the best opportunity for lasting happiness for you, for your children and for the generations to come.
And that is The Naked Truth.

Ask Yourself

  • Why is marriage so much more than a piece of paper?
  • What do you think your wedding day will look like?
  • What do you think your marriage will look like?
  • Why is marriage worth waiting for when it comes to sex?



16Lee A. Lillard and Linda J. Waite, “Till Death Do Us Part:  Marital Disruption and Mortality,” American Journal of Sociology, 1995, 100, pp. 1131-1156.  R. Jay Turner and Franco Marino, “Social Support and Social Structure: A Descriptive Epidemiology,“ Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 1994, 35, pp. 193-212. Linda J. Waite, “Does Marriage Matter?”  Demography, 1995, (32) 4, pp. 483-507.  Sanders Korenman and David Neumark, “Does Marriage Really Make Men More Productive?” The Journal of Human Resources, 1990, (26) 2, pp. 282-307.  George A. Akerlof, “Men Without Children,” The Economic Journal, 1998, 108, pp. 287-309.
17Popenoe and Whitehead, Should We Live Together? What Young Adults Need to Know About Cohabitation Before Marriage, note 4.
18Linda J. Waite, “Does Marriage Matter?” Demography, 1995, pp. 483-507.
19C.E. Ross, J. Mirowski and K. Goldsteen, “The Impact of the Family on Heath: The Decade in Review,” Journal of Marriage and the Family, 1990, 52, pp. 1059-1078.
20Waite and Gallagher, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially, note 6.
21Ibid.
22Popenoe and Whitehead, Should We Live Together? What Young Adults Need to Know About Cohabitation Before Marriage, note 4.
23Waite and Joyner, “Emotional and Physical Satisfaction in Married, Cohabiting and Dating Sexual Unions:  Do Men and Women Differ?”
24”The State of Our Unions 2000: The Social Health of Marriage in America," The National Marriage Project (New Brunswick, NJ: The National Marriage Project, 2000), note 1.
25Waite and Gallagher, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially, note 6.

 
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The Naked Truth, © 2007 by Lakita Garth. Published by Regal Books, www.regalbooks.com. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Lakita Garth is a social commentator, media consultant and professional entertainer in Los Angeles. As a highly sought-after abstinence speaker, she has talked with millions of teenagers through motivational assemblies across the United States and internationally. She has also testified before the U.S. Surgeon General and the U.S. Senate on teen pregnancy prevention, and serves on the executive board of The National Abstinence Clearinghouse. Garth, a runner-up to Miss Black America, has appeared in numerous commercials and television shows, including MTV and BET.