Where do you stand on the issue of commitment in your relationship? Do you find yourself:

  • Desiring closeness but finding your man unwilling to give it?
  • Being with a man who offers myriad excuses for not spending quality time with you?
  • Enjoying a loving evening but then feeling distanced and rejected the next day?
  • Being with men who want to serial date?
  • Wanting to be attached but being with a man who is resistant to making long-range plans that involve both of you?
  • Being discouraged and settling for a relationship without long-term commitment?
  • Filling your life up so you have no room left for closeness and relationship?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you need to learn more about how to create the opportunity for an emotionally available, committed relationship.

Not surprisingly, the Scriptures address the issue of commitment. Consider the commitment Jonathan made to David. “Jonathan made a covenant with David because he loved him as himself” (1 Samuel 18:3). Or, how about the beautifully poignant story of Ruth’s commitment to Naomi? “Don’t urge me to leave you or turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God, my God” (Ruth 1:16). Finally, the writer of the Song of Solomon uses commitment language to describe our relationship to the Lord – “My lover is mine, and I am his.” Simple, profound, delightful commitment.

During the next month or so, we will explore the issue of commitment-phobia – how to make better choices in your dating as well as how to prepare yourself for your knight in shining armor.  We will examine why some men have commitment issues and what you can do to help resolve them. We will explore ways to encourage your man to lock the door behind him, put both feet in the circle as well as be emotionally available to you. Don’t settle for too little – you deserve the best.

 

David Hawkins, PhD., has worked with couples and families to improve the quality of their lives by resolving personal issues for the last 30 years. 

He is the author of over 18 books, including
  "Love Lost: Living Beyond a Broken Marriage," "Saying It So He'll Listen," and  "When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You." His newest book is titled "When the Man in Your Life Can’t Commit."  Dr. Hawkins grew up in the beautiful Pacific Northwest and lives on the South Puget Sound where he enjoys sailing, biking, and skiing. He has active practices in two Washington cities.