“I’m bored!” Well, whose fault is that? The only people interested in entertaining you are those who get paid for it; otherwise, you are pretty much on your own.

Life is a party you create; don’t wait to be invited to one. I’m sure if we were on an episode of Family Feud with the question things singles are guilty of, we would hear the host happily quip, “Survey says … They put their lives on hold!”

Even I have to put up a guilty finger on this one. Thank heaven this season of my life is over and I finally got a clue. The only thing that should be reserved for marriage is sex (but we’ll talk about that later). Otherwise, it’s time to let the games begin.  Stop waiting for someone else to make your life happen. There is an endless world of possibilities for pleasure and fulfilling living at your fingertips. Fortunately, as a single person all your resources are yours to invest into living the life you want without having to check with anyone else. This makes for options and opportunities that are sure to be the envy of your married friends.  There is no time like the present to enjoy what you might not be able to do tomorrow because of different priorities.

What does a no-holds-barred life look like? It’s downright exciting. I repeatedly tell people I meet to finish this statement:  “I’ve always wanted to _______________.” Well, what’s stopping you? Certainly your excuse should not be “Because I have no man.” Until that blessed addition to your life shows up to claim you, your life should be full of fulfilling activities and amazing experiences that broaden you intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually as a person. In other words, get a life. Get one that will make you interesting and intriguing to others. A well-lived life full of passion and interests is like a magnet. It will draw other exciting people to you. So go ahead and mix it up.

First, break out of your regular routine. In order to have new experiences, you have to do new things. If your weekly routine is work, church, and back home, there is a lot of room for improvement. Select activities that interest you or pull you out of your comfort zone and stretch you. Remember, if you choose things that really interest you, chances are there will be other people there with the same interests, which make for fertile ground to meet your ideal mate. According to Dr. Neil Clark Warren, founder of eHarmony.com, the more things two people have in common, the greater their chances are of having a lasting relationship.

“Well, what kinds of things do you suggest, Michelle?” I suggest you experiment with anything that makes you curious; involves self-improvement; or adds to your skill sets, community involvement, or charitable ventures. Get active in areas you are concerned about. Check out an area which addresses what you feel you are lacking in your life. For instance, if the alarm on your biological clock is on full tilt sound off, why not consider mentoring children? Get involved with children’s church or a youth program. Stop insisting on one way to have personal fulfillment and broaden your scope.

Take a class in an area of interest. From fun to educational, it’s a great way to stretch beyond your present boundaries, increase your knowledge, and meet interesting people. Let me interject here that you might need to think outside of your religious box.  A lot of us have a very unhealthy opinion of what holiness looks like, and holiness often ends up looking boring. I do not believe Jesus was boring by any stretch of the imagination. He was very social and always up for attending a good dinner, banquet, wedding, or celebration. His circle of friends and associates was an eclectic mix—from the very wealthy to the socially unacceptable.  The Pharisees were appalled by the company He kept and the places He went. They accused Him of drinking and eating too much, but He had an interesting life, to say the least. The most unlikely people embraced Him and His teaching because of His friendly influence. Remember, your life has to look attractive in order for others to want to join you. You, like Jesus, will have to think outside of the religious box in order to have a life filled with excitement and fulfillment.