Why? Because they each have something internally which makes them attractive—a passion for something of value, dedication to their life work, a positive attitude no matter the circumstance, a “big picture” outlook, belief in their abilities, trustworthiness, being true to themselves, resiliency, integrity, etc.

These characteristics do not “age” like physical attributes, but rather develop and mature over time.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight (1 Peter 3:3-4).

We are all commanded to “Go into all the world and proclaim the good news” (Mark 16:15), yet many of us struggle with trying to create opportunities and knowing how to share our lives with non-believers. 

Several years ago while serving at church, I met someone who over the years has become one of my dearest and most trusted friends. What attracted me to her was not only her physical beauty, but also her zest for life, honesty, eternally positive attitude, encouragement and love for Jesus.

Over the thousands of miles and through the many seasons life has taken us, we have grown close through the sharing of our struggles and successes, praying for each other and our families, and discovering the depth of one another’s heart. 

As our friendship continues to develop even after so many years, I find her growing more attractive with each opportunity we get together because her inner beauty enhances her physical attractiveness. This is a quality that draws both believers and non-believers into her life and gives her the chance to share the Gospel.

Having a passion in life, living with excellence, believing in yourself and your abilities, being trustworthy, having a positive attitude, being true to yourself, encouraging others and living with and for Jesus will all help to make you attractive to those we should be impacting with God’s Word.

Maybe if we spent more time working on being attractive internally rather than worrying about being attractive physically, we would be more successful in life and in doing God’s work. 

That’s why I desire to have an attractive quality to my life.


Cliff Young is a contributing writer to Sandlot Stories (ARose Books), as well as the monthly column, "He Said-She Said," in Crosswalk.com's Singles Channel.  An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian musicians and consults for a number of Christian ministries. Got feedback?  Send your comments and questions to cydmg@yahoo.com.