Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. …  And the wife must respect her husband (Ephesians 5:21-24, 33b).

When we follow Jesus' example, we begin to realize that our choices really shouldn't be made on our own.  We are here to do the will of the Father, and to submit to each other out of reverence for Christ.  It is not about us.  It is about God working through us—empty vessels willing to be used by him.

When a wife respects her husband and submits to him, he naturally responds in love "just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."  He is submitting, too, and is devoted to caring for her in a way that will make her holy.  And when she feels loved, she naturally respects.  As it says in Ephesians, "this is a profound mystery."  But it's the way God designed the husband and wife relationship, as we mirror his relationship with the church.  It is awesome and beautiful to behold, and it just works.   

A Desire to Nurture and a Proclivity to Provide

While on earth, Jesus spent a great deal of time discipling, teaching and listening to and caring for others.  Yes, there were times when he took some time to rest, but by and large his life and his schedule were open to whoever needed him.  He was constantly reaching out to others. 

He told the crowd to sit down on the ground.  Then he took the seven loaves and the fish, and when he had given thanks, he broke them and gave them to the disciples, and they in turn to the people.  They all ate and were satisfied (Matthew 15:35-37a).

"I am the bread of life.  He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty" (John 6:35).

Jesus poured his life into people.  When they left his presence, they were edified and encouraged.  He filled their cup.  He fed their spirit.  He stirred their soul.

A woman has the same opportunity to nurture and provide (practically, spiritually and emotionally) as she tends to her husband and (one day) to her children.  She can choose to give life to her family and be one who offers them "healing" and caregiving.  She can provide a safe haven for her husband, encourage him in his leadership role and be his confidante.  Likewise, her children will feel secure under the protection of her wing.  They will benefit from her training, as she speaks into their lives and carefully monitors their upbringing.

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life … Her children arise and call her blessed (Proverbs 31:11-12, 28a ).

A woman's outpouring will reflect the nature of her relationship with Christ.  As she grows closer to the Lord and hides his Word in her heart, her life will be changed and those around her (first and foremost, her husband and children) will be nourished by the fruit of the Spirit that is produced in her life (Galatians 5:22-23).   

A Noble Character and a Permeating Influence

Jesus' reputation proceeded him.  Wherever he went, people were drawn to him and large crowds followed him.  People were amazed at his teaching, and lives were changed as a result of his influence. 

Others, because he was so compelling and his words so powerful, left what they were doing, gave up everything and followed his example.