This is not the route I thought my life would have taken nor what I had planned, and in no sense would I consider I had it “my way.” Nevertheless, I am where I am. I can focus on not getting what I had wanted, never having been married (yet), nor having children to call my own, or I can rejoice over those things that could have only been of the Lord.

I cannot help but smile and be grateful when I think back over the years and consider the people who have impacted my life and the memories we have made. How can I dare demand anything more?

In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps (Proverbs 16:9).

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD (Isaiah 55:8).

If I truly believe in God’s Word and trust in what these passages are saying, how can I continue to try to make MY desires come to pass over trusting the Lord to show me His?

If the Lord determines my steps and His ways not my ways, why do I rack my brains, get so frustrated and disappointed when things don’t happen the way I think it “should,” instead of just looking for His greater plan in it?

Is there anything in your life which you have been wrestling with God over?

Are you “stuck” in your thinking of how life needs to go in a certain direction?

Have you been unwavering in what your future mate should look like, be like or have?

When we reach that place in life where we can truly believe and live with the peace and understanding of Isaiah 55:8  we will begin to live freer.

David seemed to have reached this place, and it is my hope we all will.

But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation. I will sing to the LORD, for he has been good to me (Psalms 13:5-6).

Cliff Young is a contributing writer to Sandlot Stories (ARose Books), as well as the monthly column, "He Said-She Said," in's Singles Channel. An architect and former youth worker, he now works with Christian musicians and consults for a number of Christian ministries. Got feedback? Send your comments and questions to Find him on facebook and twitter.

Publication date: July 2, 2013