Um, ladies?  Can we talk?

It’s not like we guys don’t appreciate how you look in all of these flattering summer fashions you like to wear.  We know that currently, to be stylish is to show a lot of skin.  We also know that since we’re supposed to control our sexual urges, and we’re supposed to let you wear whatever you want… or don’t want… we’re supposed to keep our opinions on this matter to ourselves.  

Frankly, however, it’s all very convenient for you, but not so much for us.  Because even if, in our silence, you think we don’t see all of that skin you’re showing us, don’t be mistaken:  we do.

And more often than not, it’s causing us to stumble into sexually impure thoughts.

We’re now into the dog days of summer, and this year, the styles for women seem to rely less and less on fabric and more and more on exposed flesh.  After all, the less we wear, the more comfortable we feel in the heat.  We get it.  If we could get away with wearing shorts and tank tops to church, we would.  And it’s not like we men would prefer that you dress like shapeless, dour prudes.  But please understand:  you’re not doing us – or yourselves – any favors with some of the stuff you’re wearing.

Or, not.

Rules or Responsibilities?

Sure, this sounds like the same old sermon about “nice girls” you’ve probably heard from some curmudgeonly old preacher, or maybe your own strict parents, or maybe some domineering former boyfriend.  And sometimes, people make rules simply to have rules, so they can evaluate how obedient everybody is.  Some religious sects force their women to wear ankle-length skirts and long-sleeved blouses, regardless of the weather, but even then, modesty is relative, isn’t it?  If men really want to undress you with their eyes, we have an amazing ability to do so – no matter what you’re wearing.

Inversely, however, have you ever wondered whether guys who appreciate the “less is more” philosophy in women’s clothing truly have your best interests at heart?  The more they see, the less their lustful brains need to work.  Why bother trying to attract guys like that?

So this isn’t about rules, or rulers for measuring skirt length.

What women wear has been a topic of conversation in practically every generation since God introduced Eve to Adam.  In some cultures, women literally wear practically nothing, but then again, the same goes for their men.  It’s less a matter of modesty or immodesty, and more a primal accommodation for climate.

But does that mean our summertimes in North America provide the perfect excuse for seeing how little fabric we can get away with in public?  You ladies may think so, but then again, you may not fully appreciate how visual men can be.  Particularly in our sexually charged culture.

On the beach, of course, things are somewhat different, even though relative modesty should still be a virtue.  Unless you attend a church whose Sunday services take place on a beach, however, we rarely confuse corporate worship with the frivolity of swimming.  Yet how many men at your church are met each Sunday with amazingly short skirts, provocatively deep necklines, and sheer fabrics of the thinnest materials which cling ever so delicately to, well, your most delicate spots?  Swimsuits may hide the bare essentials, but some of the things some of you wear to church don’t really cover up much else.

You expect us to be men of God.  You hope that we be chaste, as well you should.  After all, you know what lust is.  You know that just looking lustfully at somebody is a sin.  

Might you be contradicting yourselves, meanwhile, when you wear what you wear and then get upset when we sin with our eyes?