Why What Women Wear Matters
- Tuesday, August 07, 2012
What is the extent of your culpability when we men lust after you? Are we men supposed to simply look up at the ceiling when you walk by? How fair is it for you to figure you can dress however you want to dress, and it’s up to us men to deal however we can with the sin it causes us?
The writer of Proverbs 11:22 put it bluntly: “like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.”
In other words, even if you’re drop-dead gorgeous by anybody’s standards, if you lack modesty, you’re demonstrating a lack of integrity. And even though our society tends to reward people regardless of their integrity, doesn’t God expect us to hold higher standards?
We’re supposed to be brothers and sisters in Christ. Maybe in your family, growing up, you didn’t care how you looked in front of your male siblings, but now that you’re grown up, how appropriate is childish behavior?
Dress for True Success
When you’re shopping in the mall, or surfing clothing websites by yourself at home, perhaps the allure of trendy fashions tends to displace more rational evaluations of what styles are appropriate for public exposure. Retailers don’t want you to think about modesty; they want you to purchase what they have to sell. And they probably don’t lower prices just because what they’re selling these days features less and less fabric.
Unless, of course, you genuinely do intend to seduce men in your church by what you wear – and the way you wear it? If that is the case, then perhaps the man you end up seducing will match your ambitions. But that will be a pity for both of you.
Indeed, men, how much of this problem is perpetuated by those of us who shamelessly flirt with women who dress immodestly? Maybe it’s a chicken-and-egg kind of thing; do women dress immodestly to gain attention, or does the attention women receive simply by being a woman feed even a subconscious desire to stoke their allure? After all, women have been known to dress to impress other women, but men can encourage such fashionista posturing for their own benefit and disguise it as female empowerment.
Not that covering one’s entire body like a babushka readying for winter is the appropriate response here, either. Feigning piety is as much a sin as men lusting and women causing us to lust.
And yes, intentionally enticing your brothers in Christ to sin is also a sin.
Instead, shouldn’t modesty that comes from an understanding of one’s true value before our Savior translate into respectable clothing choices that honor others? The same grace God exercises to save us from our sins is available for all of us to use as we interact with each other.
Maybe this all still sounds too much like subjective standards being applied to something in which believers have freedom. But where does God ever say freedom in Christ means we can do whatever we want? We are not our own; we’ve been bought with a price. Doesn’t this mean that being clothed in righteousness never goes out of fashion for believers?
Some of us men will be more grateful than others, ladies, if you take our request to heart. Even so, Whom should you be hoping to please more than any of us?
From his smorgasboard of church experience, ranging from the Christian and Missionary Alliance to the Presbyterian Church in America, Tim Laitinen brings a range of observations to his perspective on how we Americans worship, fellowship, and minister among our communities of faith. As a one-time employee of a Bible church in suburban Fort Worth, Texas and a former volunteer director of the contemporary Christian music ministry at New York City's legendary Calvary Baptist, he's seen our church culture from the inside out. You can read about his unique viewpoints at o-l-i.blogspot.com.
Publication date: August 7, 2012
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